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10 Terrible First Date Mistakes You Can Avoid

2010-05-15T14:23:00.000-07:00

Top 10 Dating Mistakes You Need to Avoid

: First Dates Can Be Fun!

Have you watched Millionaire Matchmaker? It's a show where a "matchmaker" sets up millionaire men who, it appears, cannot find dates on their own with attractive women.
At first glance, you think, "You've got to be kidding." But watch the show. The funny thing is, you can nearly immediately figure out why they are single. There is typically some glaring flaw that the single millionaire doesn't see in himself. As the viewer, it's easy to see. The dating mistakes men make...
But that's the benefit of NOT being the one on display. It's easy to see the flaws in others, but we live with ourselves. We know why we do the things we do. We have REASONS why we do the things we do.
And sometimes these relationship mistakes are stopping us from getting what we really want.
In this case, Mr. Right.

The Top 10 Dating Mistakes to Avoid on Your First Date...(or many dates, actually)

Put Your Cell Away: And don't look at it Everyone is very busy these days and he carved time out of his schedule to give you his attention (and probably buy you a meal). Give him the gift of your full attention. It's incredibly rude to check your texts and voice mails, let alone take a call. It might not seem like it when YOU are the one on the phone, but let him do it to you and trust me, it's going to be irritating.
The Ex-Factor: Um. Seems obvious, but you want to at least APPEAR available. If you go on about your ex you do yourself a disservice, actually several. Regardless of how obvious it seems to you that your ex is a jerk and did everything wrong, some of your blame WILL be obvious to the other person. We are all flawed and it's fine once someone knows you enough to give you room for your screw-ups. But a first date is "best foot forward" time. Save the crazy for later. Secondly, it will look like he is still front of mind enough that he is your topic of conversation. Not what the new guy want to think.
Eat: Let your appetite be reflective of your appetite. Here's why. Sensuality is wrapped up with lots of things, physicality, flirting, eye contact....food and drink are two on the list. I am NOT saying binge and PROVE you can match him drink for drink. I AM saying, be real. It works in your favor.
Drunk = Loss of Respect: Don't think it's "cool". It's the opposite. They MIGHT see you again, but you will never be in the "serious" category you will be in the "lay" category. A first date fumble like that is likely unrecoverable. And don't throw up in his car. Also not hot.
Don't Leave Your Brain at Home: Playing dumb is not sexy and adorable. It is dumb. Confidence is sexy. Bright is sexy. Humor is sexy. Oh my god I am so helpless and stupid show me everything because I am so frail is just pathetic. Pathetic is not sexy either. There are better ways to get attention. Be yourself and contribute to the experience. You'll both have a better time.
My Children Are My Life: Really? Then stay home. You are not auditioning for mother. You are auditioning for position of life partner. Let me point out that your kids are in your daily life for at most 20 years. If you are planning on living 80, you may want to pay attention to your significant other. There is no need to explain what the mother/child relationship entails. Everyone's pretty up on that. Going out of your way to say, "Best case scenario, you're coming in second." doesn't feel great to anyone. Leave the kids at home.
Be on Time: Waiting is painful. Again, does not look cool, fashionable, or anything good. You know what it looks like? Looks like you're late and can't get your cuss together to be on time. If you're going for the whole flaky vibe, late works.
High Maintenance: Not good. What does that mean? It means don't be difficult, rude, demanding. Don't order the most expensive thing on the menu. Don't be disappointed if he takes you for tacos. Don't ask him what kind of car he drives. Do you really want him worrying about whether or not he can afford to take you out again? It's your job to give yourself the lifestyle you want, not his. Don't make him feel the financial burden of YOU on a date! Don't go on about all of the amazing places other men have taken you/things they have bought you/how much $ they made/expensive cars you like and MY GOD don't ask him to buy you anything. Seriously.
Nobody Wants to Sex Up Frump Girl/If You're Showing Vag You're Trying too Hard: So there is a lot of gray area in between the black and the white. Let's see...be sexy, for sure. But UNDERSTATED sexy is best. What does that mean? Or better, what does that look like? It looks classy, but fitted, a little short, ABSOLUTELY high heels (this is not a PTA meeting), your BEST makeup including a smokey eye if you can do it right. I means you took care to get ready. It means you FEEL smokin' hot (but not slutty).
Let Him Be the MAN: Aggressive and dominant don't work on a first date (unless you're being paid for it, but that's a whole different blog). You might be Ms. Ball-buster career woman at work, and god knows it takes toughness to be a single mother running a household, but you are NOT at work and no one is negotiating their interest rate tonight. Be feminine and let him be masculine. Allow the process to flow naturally. Don't steer it or push it. Don't take the lead in a kiss. Don't ask for a second date or even hint about it (it's not subtle, it's really not). You might offer to pay for your portion of the meal, but only offer once (he will 99% of the time decline), then graciously accept. Be thankful.

Have fun, be yourself, be polite, be thankful. Even if you don't find that amazing spark, you will meet a lot of interesting people in your dating experience and your life will be richer for it.

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Jillian Michaels Passion

2009-09-10T22:08:00.001-07:00

Jillian Michaels has an amzing body and a passion for fitness!

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Why Can't I Stop Eating?

2009-06-16T21:28:00.000-07:00

Have you ever asked yourself why you can't eat just one potato chip, especially one buffalo wing flavored potato chip dipped in creamy ranch dip? What do they put in these foods--crack?

Well, yes, sort of, according to David Kessler in his new book "The End of Overeating: Taking Control of the Insatiable American Appetite." Kessler, a former pediatrician who was FDA Commissioner under Presidents Bush (the father) and Clinton, presents some pretty compelling research showing that food manufacturers and chain restaurants know exactly what's going to make you want to eat--and eat, and eat, and eat, and eat.

There are a few things causing this epidemic of overeating: Chemically-enhanced food that tastes good because it's high in fat, sugar, and salt; food so processed it's almost pre-chewed; food that's extremely cheap, because real ingredients, like eggs, sugar, butter, and natural flavorings have been replaced by low-cost synthetic ingredients; huge portions that are training us to eat (and expect) more; and 24-hour availability, so you can get that Panda Express Orange Chicken or those Tyson Chicken Cordon Bleu Any'tisers whenever the craving strikes.

What's the cure?

1. Stop snacking. Really. It's not that hard, and you'll see the benefits fast. First, you'll actually be hungry once meal time rolls around, which makes the food so much more enjoyable. Second, you will lose weight, and you'll do it without have to go on a diet. Snacking is a modern phenomenon, so just think of this as returning to your roots. (If you must snack, try this healthy yogurt option with granola, tropical fruit, and crystallized ginger.)

2. Go cold turkey on processed foods. You'll lose your taste for them in a matter of days. Since you're not snacking any more, you don't need chips and crackers. Bake your own cookies--it's fun, and you'll know what goes into them. Keep ice cream as an occasional treat. Give up cold cereal, even the kind labeled healthy. It's not actually that healthy. Oats are healthy. Eggs are healthy. Even bacon is healthy, in moderation.

3. Skip the chain restaurants. Read Kessler's book if you need to know why. Just realize that what you're ordering is engineered to make you eat like your belly is a bottomless pit. The wiser choice: Go out less frequently to a real restaurant where there's a chef in the kitchen who cooks real food with real ingredients, rather than assembling pre-fab dishes from frozen components.

New Wayne Dyer Book- Excuses Begone!

2009-06-06T19:16:00.000-07:00

Excuses Begone! is the HOT new book just released May 26, 2009 written by Dr. Wayne Dyer. Dr. Dyer is an internationally renowned author and speaker in the field of self-development. He is the author of more than 30 books, has created numerous audio programs and videos, and has appeared on thousands of television and radio shows. Wayne holds a doctorate in educational counseling from Wayne State University and was an associate professor at St. John’s University in New York.Within the pages of this transformational book, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer reveals how to change the self-defeating thinking patterns that have prevented you from living at the highest levels of success, happiness, and health. Even though you may know what to think, actually changing those thinking habits that have been with you since childhood might be somewhat challenging.

If I changed, it would create family dramas . . . I’m too old or too young . . . I’m far too busy and tired . . . I can’t afford the things I truly want . . . It would be very difficult for me to do things differently . . . and I’ve always been this way . . . may all seem to be true, but they’re in fact just excuses. So the business of modifying habituated thinking patterns really comes down to tossing out the same tired old excuses and examining your beliefs in a new and truthful light.

In this groundbreaking work, Wayne presents a compendium of conscious and subconscious crutches employed by virtually everyone, along with ways to cast them aside once and for all. You’ll learn to apply specific questions to any excuse, and then proceed through the steps of a new paradigm. The old, habituated ways of thinking will melt away as you experience the absurdity of hanging on to them.

You’ll ultimately realize that there are no excuses worth defending, ever, even if they’ve always been part of your life—and the joy of releasing them will resonate throughout your very being. When you eliminate the need to explain your shortcomings or failures, you’ll awaken to the life of your dreams.

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Dr Wayne Dyer Quotes:

A mind at peace, a mind centered and not focused on harming others, is stronger than any physical force in the universe.

Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.

Anything you really want, you can attain, if you really go after it.

Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice.

Begin to see yourself as a soul with a body rather than a body with a soul.

Conflict cannot survive without your participation.

Deficiency motivation doesn't work. It will lead to a life-long pursuit of try to fix me. Learn to appreciate what you have and where and who you are.

Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.

Everything in the universe has a purpose. Indeed, the invisible intelligence that flows through everything in a purposeful fashion is also flowing through you.

Everything is perfect in the universe - even your desire to improve it.

Everything you are against weakens you. Everything you are for empowers you.

Freedom means you are unobstructed in living your life as you choose. Anything less is a form of slavery.

Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.

How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.

I cannot always control what goes on outside. But I can always control what goes on inside.

I think and that is all that I am.

If you are living out of a sense of obligation you are slave.

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either.

It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there's nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized.

100 Calorie Cocktails! New for Summer-SkinnyTini!

2009-06-03T07:20:00.000-07:00

Calories range dramatically from cocktail to cocktail! Here are a few delicious drink suggestions to keep you on the light side.

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MOJITO (160 calories-15g sugar) vs. LONG ISLAND ICED TEA (700 calories-40g sugar) Skip the LIT and go for a Mojito. You’ll save 520 calories. COSMOPOLITAN (150 calories-12g sugar) VS. MARGARITA (500 calories-32g sugar) The typical Margarita is loaded with calories and sugar due to the sweet & sour mix. Try Baja Bob's Sugar Free Margarita Mix! He's getting rave reviews. Make your margarita low cal with Bob. BLOODY MARY (150 calories-10g sugar) vs. PINA COLADA (625 calories-75g sugar) Trade the sugary sweetness of the Pina Colada for the spice of the Bloody Mary and save 475 calories.

: 100 Calorie Cocktail

100 Calorie Sangria Sparkler Recipe

Make your happy hour healthier with this refreshing, low-calorie cocktail. Sharing a pitcher of sangria with friends is a great way to kick off summer. Sliced oranges are a traditional addition to this refreshing Spanish beverage. With their bright red flesh, blood oranges give extra impact.

Prep: 10 minutes
Chill: 2 hours
Makes: 12 servings

750-milliliter bottle dry red wine
1 cup light orange juice
1/4 cup brandy or cognac
1/4 cup orange liqueur
2 tablespoons sugar
2 medium oranges, sliced
2 cups club soda, chilled
Crushed ice and/or orange peel curls (optional)

1. In a large pitcher, combine wine, orange juice, brandy, orange liqueur, sugar, and orange slices. Chill at least 2 hours. Add club soda before serving. Serve over crushed ice and/or with orange peel curls, if desired. Nutrition Information per serving: 100 calories, 0g protein, 9g carbohydrate, 0g fat (0g saturated), 0g fiber

: SkinnyTinis- All of the Fun for Half the Calories

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This is what the author, Teresa Howes, has to say about it:

How do we maintain or lose weight without giving up small pleasures in life like a night out on the town with the girls or a stiff martini after a long day at the office? That was the question that prompted me to begin looking at alcohol differently. Instead of trying to avoid it, I'd prefer to find ways to modify recipes and habits so I can still enjoy my favorites.

Hence the advent of SkiinnyTinis! I was so proud of my concoctions and revelations that I felt compelled to share them with the rest of the social drinkers who share my struggle. The recipes in this book have been tested, and users have rated them just as tasty as their high-calorie counterparts (if not tastier). The only difference? They have less than half the calories.

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Cook Yourself Thin Cookbook!

2009-06-01T20:50:00.000-07:00

: Cook Yourself Thin Book

Are you listening to the buzz around the book Cook Yourself Thin: Skinny Meals You Can Make in Minutes based on Lifetime's new show "Cook Yourself Thin" that has REAL women losing a dress size?

Forget drab diets – they don’t work because ‘healthy’ food tastes pretty grim. If you want to drop a dress size and still eat gorgeous grub then the Cook Yourself Thin team are about to come to your rescue. The average woman spends 30 years of her life dieting but 60% are still overweight. Clearly diets don’t work! Most of us are not obese, we don’t want to overhaul our diets, we just want to lose weight.

Join three cool cooks who regularly have their cake, eat it and still look gorgeous. Armed with their skinny secrets and a ballistic bomb calorie-counter, they prove that you can drop a dress size in six weeks and still stuff your face. The fabulous four are serious foodies who won't make any compromises when it comes to flavor - their dishes first and foremost must taste great. They show you their tricks - how to double the taste while halving the calories. These girls don't do denial. Burgers, curries, and chocolate cake are all on the menu and won't pile on the pounds if you cook it their way. So if you want to streamline those curves, get yourself back into the kitchen and Cook Yourself Thin.

: Allison Fishman of Cook Yourself Thin

Interview with Allison Fishman: I had the pleasure of speaking with Allison Fishman, one of the co-stars of Lifetime’s new show Cook Yourself Thin, which made its American debut just this past week. Allison is a passionate chef who owns The Wooden Spoon, a Brooklyn-based culinary school, who sharpened her own culinary skills while working for Martha Stewart, the Food Network and TLC’s Home Made Simple. She shared with us how she got her start cooking healthy (it’s a story, all working women can relate to) and some of her favorite slimming secrets in the kitchen.

Read the highlights from my interview with Allison Fishman.

Where did the idea come from for the show Cook Yourself Thin?

Cook Yourself Thin got its start in England where the show and the accompanying cookbook have proved to be a huge hit with British women. The producers of the show thought that the premise of Cook Yourself Thin would be a great hit with the American audience to learn how to cook healthy.

Have you always cooked healthy or is this a new way of cooking for you?

My story is similar to many working women out there. I had an executive level job in the dot.com industry and after a few years in it, noticed the weight creeping on after too many business dinners. I also noticed that even though I was a very successful business woman, I couldn’t poach an egg to save my life. I was a complete nincompoop in the kitchen. So I decided that I need to go to culinary school and that is just what I did.

I wanted to be able to indulge in delicious foods without perceiving food as the enemy. I had my kitchen stocked with truffle oil, fresh Parmesan cheese, I was able to master cooking and eating vegetables and whole grains. And to my surprise, I lost weight eating this way.

What are three of the most important steps anyone can do in their own kitchen to stay trim?

Number One is to avoid drinking your calories. Right now, I have three huge bottles of unsweetened sun tea sitting on the windowsill of my kitchen. I also always keep seltzer water on hand and drink plenty of brewed tea during the winter. Second, stock your refrigerator with fruits and vegetables and clean out your pantry of snack foods. Right now is the season where fresh produce is in abundance. Stock up on blueberries, pineapples, peaches and whatever is fresh and in season. Third, don’t be afraid of following recipes. The dishes that we prepare on Cook Yourself Thin are healthy and simple.

: Candice Kumai of Cook Yourself Thin

An Interview with Candice Kumai:

Looking to lose those last ten pounds, but not give up your favorite foods? Lifetime may have your solution with its new show Cook Yourself Thin. Taking real women who are looking to drop baby weight, get ready for an impending reunion, or perhaps have just let themselves go, each episode features a guest as she learns how to transform favorite (but fattening) recipes into healthy (and still tasty) fare. The viewers get to see how after six weeks the participant has progressed, and if she has kept up the healthier lifestyle. TVGuide.com spoke with one of the hosts, and former Top Chef Season 1 contestant, Candice Kumai about what sets her show apart, how you can enjoy foods you love, and why she's defending Kim Kardashian.

TVGuide: How is Cook Yourself Thin different from other weight-loss shows?

Candice Kumai: It's really fun, cute and creative because we take really great food and make it even better because we're making it healthy. You don't think of eating lettuce or rice cakes or depriving yourself, you think of an actual burger or fries or milkshake that you can have and actually love. It's mainly the lifestyle change and it's genuinely built for women.

TVGuide: There are three hosts, so do you each have a different expertise you bring to the table?

Kumai: The three of us are so different yet we make the perfect puzzle pieces for each other. Harry [Eastwood] is our original girl from the series in London. She's our blonde, British baker; she really specializes in trying to find the perfect substitute for fat in her baking. Allison [Fishman] is our classic American beauty, girl-next-door, from New York, and she is amazing at cooking instruction— she's very technical. I'm total SoCal, surfer girl, born and raised with a Japanese mother and an American father. So I grew up with all different kinds of cuisines, very cultured, well-traveled and I bring more of the ethnic edge. We are so different but when we come together we make this amazing team and we just feed off of each other.

TVGuide: What's your favorite recipe you've made on the show?

Kumai: The roasted chicken was so good— it's a classic everybody should know how to make. Also one of the alternative recipes I loved was the tequila lime sautéed shrimp tacos. It was always too fattening so I try to find the really healthy, California way to jazz it up.

TVGuide: There's been some controversy about Kim Kardashian being labeled as plus-size. Being on TV, do you feel pressure to stay slim?

Kumai: Kim Kardashian is one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen. For people to say things like that just blow my mind because it's not all about your waistline. I defend someone like her because she's beautiful and even Allison, Harry and I all have to work really hard to maintain our weight. We're all in the same boat together. Nobody's perfect and everyone can be beautiful in their own way. Dieting has become part of the culture [and] has taken over the world of food. We just want to be able to teach women that food isn't your enemy. It's going to be here for the rest of your life, you may as well make amends with it.

Cook Yourself Thin Mondays at 5 pm/ET on Lifetime.

Reviews:

Really loving the new Lifetime series Cook Yourself Thin. The trio of recipe rescuers -- Candice Kumai, Harry Eastwood and Allison Fishman -- swoop into a woman's life and teach her sneaky little tricks to lighten up her favorite meals and slim down.

The companion cookbook is just as fun and mouth-watering. Filled with full-page color photos of many of the dishes, the book offers a step-by-step way to replicate the trimmer and tasty recipes seen on the show, which airs weekdays at 5 p.m. with back-to-back 30-minute episodes.

In addition to the recipes, which include calories, the book includes:

* Bios of the hosts
* A quiz to find your Eater ID, with solutions
* The trio's weight-loss philosophy
* A brief calorie guide
* Food and equipment basics to stock in your kitchen
* Smart calorie swaps
* Skinny alternatives to your favorite unhealthy foods and risky situations
* A calorie-burning chart on exercise

I love this softcover cookbook -- lots of great ideas, smart swaps without going all "science project", lots of photos and inspiration and sensible advice.

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Cook Yourself Thin Smoothie Recipe- Lifetime TV

2009-06-01T09:46:00.001-07:00

Lifetime's Harry Eastwood show's us how to make her famous Cook Yourself Thin smoothie recipe. For more ways to DROP THAT DRESS SIZE get the book now! http://dawnallred.wordpress.com/2009/05/31/cook-yourself-thin-book-from-lifetimes-hot-new-show/

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Hot New Book- Who's Got Your Back by Project Greenlight's Keith Ferrazzi

2009-05-30T07:45:00.000-07:00

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Keith Ferrazzi's new book, Who's Got Your Back: The Breakthrough Program to Build Deep, Trusting Relationships That Create Success--and Won't Let You Fail is ready to help YOU drastically change your life. His idea is simple: Hold a small few close. Make these few the smart, real people in your life that will give you the honest truth about the missteps they see in your life and life-plan (no yes-men). Keep them in your life and have them hold you accountable.

: Keith Ferrazzi- Author of "Who's Got Your back?"

Ferrazzi's ideas mirror those of many great men and titans of industry before him. It's a worthy read with much to teach. Use his wisdom to change YOUR life and move closer to the life YOU DESERVE!

"If I'd had this book at the start of my career, I would have saved myself 30 years of trial and error. If you are serious about your success, I strongly recommend that you read this book and build your support circle today."

- Marshall Goldsmith, author of What Got You Here Won't Get You There, a NYT best seller, WSJ #1 business book

Disregard the myth of the lone professional "superman" and the rest of our culture's go-it alone mentality. The real path to success in your career and in your personal life is through creating an inner circle of "lifeline relationships" - deep, close relationships with a few key trusted individuals who will offer the encouragement, feedback, and generous mutual support that every one of us needs to reach our full potential. Whether your dream is to lead a company, be a top producer in your field, overcome the self-destructive habits that hold you back, lose weight or make a difference in the larger world, Who's Got Your Back will give you the roadmap you've been looking for to achieve the success you deserve.

Keith Ferrazzi, the internationally renowned thought leader, consultant, and bestselling author of Never Eat Alone, shows us that becoming a winner in any field of endeavor requires a trusted team of advisors who can offer guidance and help to hold us accountable to achieving our goals. It is the reason PH.D candidates have advisor teams, top executives have boards, world class athletes have fitness coaches, and presidents have cabinets.

In this step-by-step guide to the powerful principles behind personal growth and change, you'll learn how to:

Master the mindsets that will help you to build deeper, more trusting "lifeline relationships"
Overcome the career-crippling habits that hold you back, once and for all
Get further, faster by setting goals in a dramatically more powerful way
Use "sparring" as a productive tool to make the decisions that will fuel personal success
Replace the "yes men" in your life with those who get it and care - and who will hold you accountable to achieving your goals
Lower your guard and let others help

None of us can do it alone. We need the perspective and advice of a trusted team. And in Who's Got Your Back, Keith Ferrazzi shows us how to put our own "dream team" together. The principles learned apply to much more than just business.

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10 Headlines That Will Make YOUR HUSBAND LEAVE YOU Before He Even Meets You!

2009-05-28T18:26:00.000-07:00

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Your HEADLINE will get your profile read or skipped.

Next to your photo, it is one of the most powerful marketing tools of your online dating profile. A good headline can draw crowds of people, even if you don’t have a photo. A bad headline however... can make you all but invisible.

In no particular order, here are the 10 worst headlines out there... so common and boring that people don’t even see them as they skim through ads. Learn from the mistakes of the unread!

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1. HEADLINE: “Insert funny headline here.”
HE THINKS: “Wow, people are still using this tired old line?”

This wasn’t funny years ago, and everyone has seen it dozens of times since. Be creative. If you’ve seen it somewhere before, it’s old news. It makes you look out of touch.

2. HEADLINE: “Clever headline #28492”
HE THINKS: “Um. Not clever’”

Says nothing interesting about you and it's way too overused. Do you really want something this boring and unoriginal to be the first thing people read about you?

3. HEADLINE: “how about diner and drinks”
HE THINKS: “You can’t even spell properly in your headline? Is our first date going to be at Chuck E Cheese?”

There is NO excuse for spelling errors in your headline, and yet it is so common. First impressions are everything, and your headline counts. It makes you look careless and sloppy (and let's be honest, not that bright). The “dinner and drinks” headline itself is also overused and coming from a woman, sounds like you are asking for a free meal.

4.HEADLINE: “Love to laugh.“
HE THINKS: “No way! Me too! We must be soul mates.”

No. No he doesn't. It doesn't send the message you want it to, that you are lighthearted and fun to be around. People write this as if it makes them unique... but have you ever known anyone who didn’t enjoy laughing? Although this headline intends to display value by making you look special, it actually reduces your value by showing that you are average.

5. HEADLINE: “I’m looking for someone special.”
HE THINKS: “Wow, I’ve just been hanging out here waiting to show myself to someone who was LOOKING for someone special! Now that you’re here, I’m saved!”

Because you are looking for someone special, does it mean that the truly special people should come check you out? Nope. No one cares what you are looking for, they only care what they are looking for. Remember that. You have to "sell" yourself online in a very small space. Use your headline to build your own value and get you what you want: Your profile read.

6. HEADLINE: “Hmm, I don’t know what to write here.”
HE THINKS: “Stumped already? Our first date is going to suck. I took the time to write something on my profile. She won't even bother to do that? Not interested.”

If you can’t think of your own headline, you’re either heavily medicated and should not be out dating or you lack any thought processes at all. There is no excuse. None. Steal something off the front page of Yahoo if you have to.

7. HEADLINE: “I’ll fill this in later.”
HE THINKS: “Too lazy to even write a headline? Guess who would be doing ALL of the work dating her...”

If you can’t be bothered, why should anyone else bother with you? Seriously, laziness is one of the biggest turn offs there is.

8. HEADLINE: “One last try...”
HE THINKS: “One last try... because you’ve struck out so many times already?”

Oh my NO NO NO. Pathetic and hurt is not SEXY. You MUST be appealing to attract. And come on, we have all been hurt. Yours is not so super special. But that headline tells everyone you are not over it. No one wants to play therapist on a date. Reminding someone of failure is never a great way to get anyone attracted to you.

9. HEADLINE: “Single and looking.”
HE THINKS: “Slutty.”

He could infer you date all the time. Guys love to think about that. (No. No they don't.) This redefines redundant, and tells the reader nothing more than that you are exactly the same as the other 50,000 people visiting the site that day.

10. HEADLINE: “Hello,” or “Hi.”
HE THINKS: “Dull.”

This is definitely one of the most common and boring headlines out there. It is completely uncreative and lacking any effort. People won’t even see it listed amongst the other interesting and funny headlines.

And the bonus number ELEVEN Worst Prize Winner is: "Picking Up the Pieces."

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And there you have the top 10 (had to be 11) most useless online dating headlines. These also fail as subject lines for first emails. The rule is - always be interesting, exciting, funny, or fascinating. Never, ever be average.

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Cook Yourself Thin Lasagna Recipe

2009-05-22T09:35:00.000-07:00

"Cook Yourself Thin: Skinny Meals You Can Make in Minutes"

by Lifetime's Harry Eastwood

Lasagna...light but luxurious

The lasagne

1 teaspoon olive oil
1 onion, finely chopped
2 sticks of celery, finely chopped
1 carrot, finely chopped
4 cloves of garlic, peeled and finely chopped
400g lean beef mince (must be the best quality, or you could try and get a butcher to mince it for you)
Salt and freshly ground black pepper
315ml red wine
400g tin plum tomatoes
1 tablespoon tomato purée
1 bay leaf
1/2 teaspoon dried oregano
2 courgettes, thinly sliced lengthways
1 jar of roasted red peppers in brine
4 sheets of lasagne

The cheese sauce

500ml semi-skimmed milk
A good grating of whole nutmeg
Salt and pepper
3 tablespoons cornflour
1 teaspoon English mustard
80g mature cheddar cheese

Per serving:
347 calories

1. Heat up a big saucepan and add the olive oil. Sweat the onion, celery, carrot and garlic for around five minutes over a medium heat.

2. Heat a frying pan up until very hot and cook the seasoned beef, without any oil, in batches. Then add the beef to the saucepan.

The point of cooking the beef in batches is to get a good colour on it because this adds more flavour.

3. When all the beef is in the saucepan, turn up the heat and add the wine.

4. Cook until the wine has all been absorbed and then add the tinned tomatoes, tomato purée, bay leaf and oregano. Season and simmer for 30 minutes or until rich and tasty.

5. Preheat a conventional oven to 180ºC, or a fan-assisted one to 160ºC.

6. Heat a griddle pan. Season the courgettes and lightly chargrill or sear on each side, then leave on a plate until assembling time. Drain the peppers and also add to the plate.

7. For the cheese sauce: heat the milk up gently with a good grating of nutmeg, some salt and pepper. Mix the cornflour with 50ml of the milk and whisk back into the milk, continuing to cook for two to three minutes until thickened.

8. Add the mustard and half the cheese. Check the seasoning and set aside.

9. Now for the fun part: Take a baking dish and start layering up the ingredients. Start with a layer of meat, then peppers, then meat, then courgettes, then meat, then pasta and finally cheese sauce.

10. Top with the rest of the cheese and bake for 20 to 30 minutes or until bubbling.

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Top 10 SuperFoods...Keep Your Dress Size Small and Your Wallet FAT!

2009-05-18T20:27:00.000-07:00

What Is The Superfood Buzz?

"Cook Yourself Thin: Skinny Meals You Can Make in Minutes" is the HOT new cookbook based on the Lifetime Television Show. The focus is on tiny simple steps we can take to result in a significant difference. Isn't it wonderful when we find out that easily accessible foods that don't cost a fortune, better yet, that we may already use regularly, are terrifically beneficial to our health!

'Superfood' one of the latest buzzwords to fascinate foodies. But if the word has you picturing an expensive multi-level marketing order, hold your horses. Some of the most super superfoods are the ingredients we cook with every day.

"Most unprocessed, natural foods can be classed as superfoods," says food expert "The Nutrition Coach" Kim Porter, "fruits, vegetables and proteins, such as fish, are rich in nutrients and beneficial to our health.

There has been a huge amount of hype in recent years about 'superfoods', and they have come and gone in trends. While it is fantastic that these healthy foods are being brought to our attention, it's important to not get carried away on every bandwagon. Focus on a super diet (balance balance balance) rather than individual superfoods. Here are 10 of the top foods and a few new (or easy) ways to make them a part of your routine.

Beets

: Beets...cleansing SuperFood!

Beets contain beta-carotene and betacyanin, powerful antioxidants which are said to help improve liver detoxification. They are also high in folic acid, essential for a healthy pregnancy. Impressively versatile, beets are a great cleansing food.

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Chocolate and Beetroot Brownies...hide them in chocolate

Ingredients

250g/10oz good, dark chocolate (70% cocoa solids), broken into pieces
250g/10oz unsalted butter, cut into cubes, plus more for greasing
250g/10oz caster sugar
3 free-range eggs
150g self-raising flour (we used wholemeal self-raising)
250g beetroot, boiled until tender, peeled and grated

Method: How to make chocolate and beetroot brownies

1. Preheat oven to 350°F.

Grease a baking tin of approximately 20 x 30 x 3cm and line the bottom with baking parchment.

2. Break up the chocolate into pieces, cut the butter into cubes then mix them up a bit in a heatproof bowl. As the oven begins to warm up, put the bowl onto one of the shelves for a few minutes until the chocolate and butter starts to melt. Stir, and put back into the oven for a few more minutes to melt completely.

3. Whisk the eggs and sugar together in a bowl until combined, then beat in the melted chocolate and butter until smooth. Gently fold in the flour then the beetroot – be careful not to overmix or it will make the brownies tough.

4. Pour the mixture into the prepared tin and smooth over the top with a spatula. Bake for about 20 minutes. A knife or skewer pushed into the middle should come out with a few moist crumbs clinging to it. Don't be tempted to overcook them! Remove the tin from the oven and leave on wire rack to cool before cutting into squares.

Garlic

: Garlic...the natural antibiotic!

Natural antiviral and antibiotic properties make garlic great for warding off winter coughs and sniffles (swine flu anyone?). Garlic has also been shown to reduce levels of bad cholesterol and it contains good levels of vitamin B6, making it a superfood for the heart. If your friends can take it, eat it raw.

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Garlic and Chili Prawns from "A Tour of Spain"...any excuse to eat shrimp!

Serves 2 as tapas

Ingredients

4 tbsp olive oil
4 plump garlic cloves, peeled and thinly sliced
1 smallish, fresh red chili, finely chopped
6 - 8 large raw prawns
Chopped flat leaf parsley, to serve

Method: How to make garlic and chili prawns

1. Heat the olive oil in a large frying pan and add the garlic and chili. Cook over medium heat for 1 - 2 minutes until softened.

2. Add the prawns and cook for just 1 - 2 minutes, turning halfway, until thoroughly cooked and pink throughout. Tip into a serving dish and sprinkle with fresh flat leaf parsley. Serve with lots of crusty bread.

Broccoli

: Broccoli...part of a family of SuperFoods!

To beat a common cold, turn to this stalwart of the cruciferous family (which also includes kale, cabbage and cauliflower). Rich in vitamin C and fibre, broccoli also contains phytonutrients, which have anti-carcinogenic properties and can boost immunity, cleanse the liver and protect our eyes. Eat it raw or lightly steamed for maximum benefit.

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Broccoli and Garlic...an easy broccoli side dish to accompany roast meats. Goes particularly well with our roast chicken with lemon and rosemary.

Serves 6
Ready in 15 minutes

Ingredients

2 broccoli heads (about 750g), cut into florets
6 tbsp good olive oil
2 garlic cloves, thinly sliced

1. Drop the broccoli into a pan of boiling salted water and cook for 4 minutes, until al dente. Drain well.

2. Put the olive oil and garlic into a frying pan over a medium heat. As soon as the garlic begins to sizzle and brown, add the broccoli and toss for 1-2 minutes. Check the seasoning and serve straightaway.

Apples

: Apples...teachers SuperFood!

Does an apple a day keeps the doctor away? Teacher's favorite fruit is packed full of antioxidants including vitamin C and quercetin, which bolster the body's immune defenses. Pectin, a soluble fiber found in apples, is also said to help relieve constipation and lowers levels of bad cholesterol.

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Cook Yourself Thin Mulled Apple Crumb with Creme Fraiche ...the booze in this dish is optional but adds a delicious adult finish to this classic pudding. The vanilla crème fraiche makes a refreshing alternative to custard.

Serves 6
Ready in 35 minutes

Ingredients

The filling

700g/about 4-5 Bramley apples, peeled, cored and thickly sliced
50g fructose sugar
1/4 tsp mixed spice
1 tsp cinnamon
juice and zest 1 orange
splash of calvados, brandy or cider, (optional)

The topping

100g wholemeal flour
85g butter, very cold and cut into cubes
3 tbsp fructose sugar
50g whole porridge oats

The vanilla creme fraiche

300g 4% fat crème fraiche
1 vanilla pod, seeds only
1 tsp fructose sugar, (optional)

1. Heat oven to 180C. Place the apples, sugar, mixed spice, cinnamon, zest, juice, alcohol and three tablespoons of water in a large pan.

Tip

Portion size per serving:

1 portion of fruit and vegetables
5 portions of 'extras'

2. Stir gently over a low heat until the sugar has melted and the apples begin to break down. Pour into a two-liter pie dish and leave to cool a little while you make the topping.

3. Place the wholemeal flour and butter in a mixing bowl and rub together until it resembles breadcrumbs. Add the sugar and oats and mix through.

4. Sprinkle over the apples, pressing down if necessary. Bake in the oven for 25 mins or until golden and crisp.

5. For the vanilla crème fraiche, mix all the ingredients together. Serve dolloped on top of the crumble.

Eggs

: Eggs...the Simple SuperFood!

Now that's an easy one! For something so small, an egg crams an awful lot in. They are a brilliant source of protein, and provide good levels of iron, zinc, B vitamins and selenium. They also contain choline, which is cited as vital for brain function and memory. Best of all, you can whip them up in a jiffy.

If you usually only manage to choke down a dry piece of toast for breakfast then this recipe will remind you how to make a proper start to the day. Boil an egg. Written with children in mind, it is easy to follow.

Serves 1
Ready in 10 minutes

Ingredients

1 egg

Almonds

: Almonds...packed with power

With a high magnesium and monounsaturated fat content, almonds are said to be good for our hearts, while a dose of vitamin E helps to protect our skin from damage. Almonds are a great source of protein, fiber, B vitamins, calcium, zinc and iron. Add almonds to Greek yogurt for a healthy breakfast, spread almond butter on toast, or for a more decadent treat, dip almonds in melted dark chocolate, another superfood.

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Pear and Almond Cake...not be the most obvious of combos, but try this delicious cake and you'll soon realize that it's a match made in heaven!

Serves 8
Takes 35 minutes to make and 1 hour to bake

Ingredients

175g softened butter
150g Billington's Golden Caster Sugar
1 tsp vanilla extract
2 medium eggs
220g self-raising flour
1/2 tsp baking soda
1 tsp grated nutmeg
140ml sour cream
Finely grated zest of 1 lemon
50g ground almonds
2 firm pears, such as Comice
A little lemon juice
For the almond crunch topping
50g butter
50g Billington's Light Muscovado Sugar
2 tbsp double cream

1. Line a 20cm springform tin with non-stick baking paper. Preheat the oven to 180°C/fan160°C/gas 4.

2. Cream the butter, sugar and vanilla in a bowl until pale and fluffy. Beat in the eggs, 1 at a time, adding a spoonful of the flour with the second egg. Sift the remaining flour, a pinch of salt, baking soda and the nutmeg together. Fold half the flour into the creamed mixture. Fold in the sour cream, zest and almonds, then the remaining flour.

3. Peel, core and slice the pears. Toss with lemon juice to prevent discolouration. Spread half of the cake mixture over the base of the tin, cover with the pears, then the remaining cake mixture. Bake for 40 minutes.

4. Meanwhile, make the almond topping. Melt the butter in a pan and stir in the sugar and cream, then stir in the almonds.

5. Remove the cake from the oven and pour the almond mixture evenly over the top. Bake for a further 20-25 minutes, or until the topping is toffee-coloured and a skewer comes out clean from the centre of the cake. Remove and serve warm or cold.

Green Tea

: Green Tea...a secret to longevity

Green tea is very rich in a group of potent antioxidants called flavonoids, which are said to have immune enhancing and cancer protective properties. It is thought that one of the reasons why cancer rates are lower in Japan than the Western world is due to the high consumption of green tea (around three cups daily).

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Green Tea Ice Cream...has a delicate, almost scented, flavor and it's perfect served with tropical fruits such as mango and dragon fruit.

Serves 4
Takes 35 minutes to make, plus cooling and freezing

Nutritional Information

Per serving:
394kcals
22.6g fat (12.7g saturated)
7.2g protein
42.9g carbs
42.9g sugar
0.2g salt

Ingredients

500ml full-fat milk
100ml double cream
3 egg yolks
100g sugar
10g green tea powder (see Tip)
Tropical fruits, such as sliced mango and dragon fruit, to serve

1. Put the milk and cream in a pan over a medium heat and bring just to the boil. Remove from heat. In a large bowl, cream together the egg yolks, sugar and green tea for a few minutes, until thickened. Gradually pour in the hot milk mixture, stirring.

Tip

Green tea powder can be bought from the Japan Centre, 212 Piccadilly, London W1J 9HX. If you're not in London, Japan Centre has a good website, visit (japancentre.com) for mail order.

2. Pour the mixture back into the pan over a medium-low heat and cook, stirring, for 10-12 minutes, until thick enough to coat the back of a spoon. Do not overheat as it may curdle. Sieve into a clean bowl and cool.

3. Churn the mixture in an ice cream maker until frozen, then freeze until serving. Alternatively, pour into a freezerproof container, freeze for 2 hours then whizz in a processor until smooth. Freeze and repeat 3-4 times, until smooth, then freeze until serving. Serve scoops of ice cream with sliced tropical fruits.

Sardines

: Sardines...Great Source of Omega3's

Sardines are oily fish, which means they are a great source of omega 3 fats, vital for good heart, brain, skin and hormone health. Whether fresh or tinned, these little fish also provide lots of protein, vitamin B12, selenium and vitamin D. Tinned sardines on toast makes a fast and delicious budget lunch.

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Gordon's Grilled Sardines with Chermoula...from Cook Along Live

Serves 4

Ingredients

For the chermoula

2 teaspoons cumin seeds
2 teaspoons coriander seeds
Salt and pepper
Zest and juice of 1 small lemon
2 garlic cloves, peeled and roughly chopped
1 teaspoon sweet paprika
4 - 5 tablespoons olive oil
Small handful of coriander, chopped

8 fresh sardines, gutted

For the couscous

250g couscous
Olive oil
150ml vegetable stock, hot
100ml boiling water
100g raisins
200g cherry tomatoes
Fresh basil, shredded
Balsamic vinegar
100g flaked almonds
1 x lemon, zest and juice

Method: How to make Gordon's grilled sardines with chermoula

1. To make the chermoula, toast the cumin and coriander seeds in a pan over a low heat until fragrant.

2. Tip the toasted seeds into a mortar and add a pinch each of salt and pepper. Grind to a fine powder, then add the lemon zest, garlic and grind the mixture to a paste. Stir in the rest of the ingredients.

3. Score the sardines lightly on both sides at 1cm intervals and place in a shallow dish. Spoon half of the chermoula mixture over the fish and rub the marinade into the scored skin. Cover with cling film and leave to marinate.

4. Tip the couscous into a mixing bowl. Add a dash of olive oil and pour over the hot stock and water. Add the raisins here to re-constitute. Cover with cling film and leave for 15 - 20 minutes.

5. Mix the cherry tomatoes and basil in a bowl with salt and pepper. Add a splash of balsamic vinegar, drizzle with olive oil and toss together.

6. Heat a griddle pan until hot. Season the sardines with a little salt and pepper and oil lightly. Place them on the griddle and sear for 3-4 minutes each side, basting with any juices as you go. Spoon over the remaining chermoula and transfer the griddle to the oven for 2-3 minutes. Toast the flaked almonds in a dry frying pan until lightly brown.

7. Fork through the couscous to separate the grains. Add the flaked almonds, lemon zest and juice, a little olive oil and season to taste. Spoon the couscous onto the plate, serve the cherry tomatoes alongside and top with the sardines.

Turmeric

: Turmeric...a Powerful Antioxident

Turmeric has been used for centuries in China and India as an anti-inflammatory agent and can be helpful in cases of joint and muscle pain. Turmeric is also said to be a powerful antioxidant and a source of iron, manganese and vitamin B6, all of which adds up to the wonderful conclusion: eating curry is good for you. Yeah us!

Although curry and potatoes are now great British staples, both foods originated outside of the UK. Curry powder came from India and was first sold in the UK in the 18th century, while potatoes arrived on our shores in the 16th century from the Americas.

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Potato and Cashew Curry

Serves 4
Ready in 45 minutes

Nutritional Information

Per serving:
444kcals
24.3g fat (8.6g saturated)
10.6g protein
50.2g carbs
10.2g sugar
0.8g salt

Ingredients

900g British new potatoes, peeled
2 tbsp vegetable oil
1 tbsp black mustard seeds
1 onion, thinly sliced
2 garlic cloves, crushed
Thumb-size piece fresh root ginger, grated
1 hot green chilli, deseeded and finely chopped
1 tsp turmeric
6 fresh curry leaves (from large greengrocers), or 6 dried (from supermarkets)
400ml can reduced-fat coconut milk
4 vine tomatoes, peeled, deseeded and quartered
2-3 handfuls baby spinach leaves, washed
100g cashew nuts

Method: How to make potato and cashew curry

Halve the potatoes, if large, put into a large pan and cover with water. Bring to the boil and cook for 5 minutes. Drain and set aside.

Heat the oil in the same pan, add the mustard seeds and cook until they start to pop. Add the onion and fry for 5 minutes, until softened. Add the garlic, ginger, chilli, turmeric and curry leaves and fry, stirring, for 1 minute. Add the potatoes and cook, stirring, for 2 minutes. Pour in the coconut milk, bring to the boil, then reduce the heat and simmer for 10 minutes. Stir in the tomatoes, season, and cook for a further 5-10 minutes, or until the potatoes are tender but still holding their shape. Season to taste, then stir in the spinach and cashews.

Cook briefly to just wilt the spinach. Divide between 4 warm bowls and serve with naan bread to soak up the juices.

Red Wine

: Red Wine...relaxing and healthful!

Stock up your wine rack. According to Kim, the odd tipple of red wine won't do you any harm and in fact, might benefit you. Red wine has protective properties due to a high content of polyphenols, antioxidants which can apparently protect against cancer, heart disease and (brilliantly) premature ageing. Wines made from Tannat or Malbec grapes usually contain the highest polyphenol levels.

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Sausage, Haricot Bean and Red Wine Casserole...will keep you warm through the cold winter evenings. Just snuggle up and enjoy it.

Serves 4
Ready in 40 minutes

Nutritional Information

Per serving:
637kcals
43.4g fat (15.3g saturated)
30g protein
27.1g carbs
5.3g sugar
3.2g salt

Ingredients

1 tbsp sunflower oil
8 good pork and herb sausages
1 onion, sliced
2 celery sticks, sliced
2 fresh thyme sprigs, plus extra to serve
2 tbsp tomato puree
1 tbsp flour
150ml red wine
600ml fresh chicken or vegetable stock, hot
410g can haricot or cannellini beans, drained and rinsed
Chopped fresh flatleaf parsley, to serve

Method: How to make sausage and red wine casserole

1. Heat the oil in a casserole or large frying pan over a medium heat. Add the sausages and brown until golden all over. Remove them with a slotted spoon and set aside. Add the onion, celery and thyme sprigs to the pan and cook, stirring, for 5 minutes. Add the tomato purÈe and flour and cook for 1 minute. Pour in the red wine, bring to the boil and bubble until reduced by two-thirds. Add the stock, bring back to the boil and reduce the heat to a fast simmer.

2. Halve each sausage diagonally and return to the pan, then simmer for 15 minutes until they are cooked through and the sauce has thickened slightly.

3. Stir the beans into the casserole and cook for a further 5 minutes to heat through. Season to taste, then divide between 4 warm plates. Garnish with the extra herbs. Serve with creamy mash and vegetables.

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Cook Yourself Thin: Skinny Meals You Can Make in Minutes

2009-05-16T21:50:00.000-07:00

Cook Yourself Thin: Skinny Meals You Can Make in Minutes

by Harry Eastwood, Candice Kumai, and Allison Fishman

Give up Italian food if you go on a diet? The new healthy eating recipe book "Cook Yourself Thin: Skinny Meals You Can Make in Minutes", based on the Lifetime television show, teaches you to cook delicious Italian style dishes and not be scared to count the calories! And you don't have to go on some weird, extreme fad diet!

: Harry Eastwood, Candice Kumai, Allsion Fishman

Tried and Tested Recipes

There are over 120 recipes, half of which were winning entries in a competition – so they’ve been made by ordinary dieters in their homes, and are all tried and tested.

Calorie Counting

The idea of the book is to help you cut 500 calories a day. By fine tuning your diet like this, making small changes in the way you cook and the ingredients you use, you can start to lose weight – and more importantly keep it off. It certainly helps with calorie counting, as each recipe tells you just how many calories there are per serving. So you can indulge in a breakfast of tasty Coconut and Banana Pancakes drizzled with maple syrup, safe in the knowledge that there are 193 calories per serving. (Mind, the recipe makes enough for 4 people, so be sure you’ve other people there to share them with. Otherwise it would be all too easy to polish them off yourself.)

Daily Menu

The book is intended to be adaptable, and is divided into chapters that help you plan daily menus. There are sections on breakfasts, lunchboxes, vegetarian dishes, desserts – and dishes that will fill you up when you’re ravenous.

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"Skinny Girl" Margarita by Bethenny Frankel

2009-05-16T21:23:00.000-07:00

On the Rocks:

2 oz of Clear Premium Tequila
Tiny splash of Orange Liquor
Juice of four Fresh Lime Wedges

Combine all of these ingredients with a glass of ice and add a lime wedge, WAH-LAH!

Frozen:

Use the same ingredients as above, adding crushed (blended) ice

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"My Sisters Keeper" the book and movie

2009-05-16T18:45:00.000-07:00

"My Sister's Keeper" is the new movie starring Cameron Diaz (the mom) and Sofia Vassilieva (the kid) coming out June 26, 2009. It's based on the controversial book by Jodi Picoult.

My Sister's Keeper by Jodi Picoult

What the press is saying...

: "My Sister's Keeper" a Novel

Eileen Rieback says:

Jodi Picoult has masterfully covered yet another controversial topic in her novel "My Sister's Keeper." This time, young Kate is diagnosed with a severe form of leukemia. Her parents then have a baby, Anna, who is genetically selected to be a close donor match for Kate. From her birth onward into her early teens, Anna is called upon to undergo increasingly invasive and dangerous procedures to provide blood, bone marrow, and other tissues to sustain her older sister's life. Now, a kidney is needed, and Anna brings a lawsuit against her parents, claiming the right to her make own decision about what medical procedures can be performed on her. Anna's mother Sara, an attorney, decides to represent her own daughter Kate at the trial.

There are some very difficult questions raised in this story. Does Anna have the obligation to risk her own health to save her sister? Do her parents have the right to make the medical decisions about Anna's donor role, and where should their loyalties lie? Where is the fine line between what is legal and what is ethical in a situation like this? There seem to be no right or wrong answers here, and the ensuing trial recounts all the physical, moral, psychological, and familial struggles that are brought to bear on the issue. Picoult paints a powerfully emotional picture of a family in turmoil. She adds additional tension to the story through brother Jesse, whose drug taking and criminal tendencies add even more burdens to an already overwrought situation. The story also includes the love/hate relationship between Anna's lawyer and her legal guardian.

The narrative switches from character to character so that the reader hears the voices of each family member, as well as that of Anna's lawyer and of the legal guardian appointed to watch out for her interests. Sara's narrative includes flashbacks on the history of Kate's illness, Anna's role in providing medical support, and the toll that the constant threat of Kate's death takes on the family. There are several shocking twists to the plot that make the story even more riveting. This is Picoult's best book yet!

Publishers Weekly says:
The difficult choices a family must make when a child is diagnosed with a serious disease are explored with pathos and understanding in this 11th novel by Picoult (Second Glance, etc.). The author, who has taken on such controversial subjects as euthanasia (Mercy), teen suicide (The Pact) and sterilization laws (Second Glance), turns her gaze on genetic planning, the prospect of creating babies for health purposes and the ethical and moral fallout that results. Kate Fitzgerald has a rare form of leukemia. Her sister, Anna, was conceived to provide a donor match for procedures that become increasingly invasive. At 13, Anna hires a lawyer so that she can sue her parents for the right to make her own decisions about how her body is used when a kidney transplant is planned. Meanwhile, Jesse, the neglected oldest child of the family, is out setting fires, which his firefighter father, Brian, inevitably puts out. Picoult uses multiple viewpoints to reveal each character's intentions and observations, but she doesn't manage her transitions as gracefully as usual; a series of flashbacks are abrupt. Nor is Sara, the children's mother, as well developed and three-dimensional as previous Picoult protagonists. Her devotion to Kate is understandable, but her complete lack of sympathy for Anna's predicament until the trial does not ring true, nor can we buy that Sara would dust off her law degree and represent herself in such a complicated case. Nevertheless, Picoult ably explores a complex subject with bravado and clarity, and comes up with a heart-wrenching, unexpected plot twist at the book's conclusion.
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About the Movie...

: Cameron Diaz on the set of "My Sister's Keeper"

: Cameron Diaz and Sofia Vassileva

: Cameron Diaz "bald" on the set

It’s been awhile since we’ve seen or heard from Cameron Diaz in any substantial sense. But we have the latest pics of the “There’s Something About Mary” babe on the set of her new movie. Diaz was spotted in full costume on the set of “My Sister’s Keeper” the new flick based on Jodi Picoult novel. And the film sounds like it’s going to be a turn toward the dramatic genre for Cameron’s career.

According to press, “Diaz will play a former defense attorney who returns to the courtroom to defend herself and her husband when they are sued by their 13-year-old daughter for emancipation. The girl was conceived as a genetic match with the hope she could prolong her cancer-ridden sister’s life.”

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My Sister's Keeper by Jodi Picoult

Biggest Loser Winner

2009-05-13T00:14:00.000-07:00

"The Biggest Loser" Winner 2009!

Helen Phillips Wins the $250K!

"The Biggest Loser" Tara Costa Not Season's Winner

Helen Phillips lost 54.47% of her total body weight. The 140-pounds loss won her the $250,000 grand prize on NBC's "The Biggest Loser: Couples" show. Phillips, 48, beat worthy finalists Mike Morelli and Tara Costa.

She started the competition last fall at 257 pounds and ended at 117 pounds on Tuesday night's season finale.

"When I started, learning how to exercise and work out, and incorporate good nutrition into my diet was hard," Phillips said. "Once I learned and got on-board, and realized how important it was, the easier it became."

Morelli, 19, finished the show with a body weight loss of 53.35 percent. His starting weight was 388 pounds. Morelli dropped 207 pounds and weighed in Tuesday at 181 pounds. The 24-year-old Costa dropped 155 pounds after starting the show at 294 pounds. Her percentage of body weight loss was 52.72. Morelli's 55-year-old father, Ron, finished fourth.

For Phillips, winning the competition had special significance for her family which is caught squarely in the middle of the country's economic downturn and Detroit's automotive crisis. Her husband, Russell is in danger of losing his job if automaker Chrysler LLC goes forward with a plan to shut down its Sterling Heights assembly plant in 2010. Helen commented, "This will give us a nice cushion."

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10 Famous Foods Famous Lovers Used To Seduce

2009-05-11T11:51:00.000-07:00

Time to cook a meal for your hot date? Take a look at what famous lovers from the past have served up! Look back in time to those who knew how to woo.

Samson wooed Delilah with almonds, believed to provoke passionate thoughts in women. The ancient Aztecs named the avocado tree 'Ahuacuati' which translates to 'testicle tree' (nice) and it is full of sex hormone-producing vitamin B.

Garlic apparently awakens the sexual appetite, and honey was used by men during medieval times to drive their romantic choice into a frenzy of desire. Newlyweds would drink mead at their wedding breakfast, giving rise to the term 'honeymoon'.

When Attila the Hun married his twelfth wife Ildico in 453 AD whole herds of sheep along with thousands of gallons of alcohol were brought in to satisfy their appetites. The feasting continued for days, and Attila was found dead the morning after taking his 16-year-old bride to bed…so maybe not that…

When Romeo and Juliet met at a grand ball in 15th century Verona, Italy, the food was lavish and elaborate. The young lovers began the feast with tender pork livers, blancmange, tortes and pies, salt-cured pork loin and sausage, roast veal, kid, squab, chicken, rabbit, and whole roasted large game and fowl dressed in their skin or feathers. The main course included fried dough covered with honey and rose water, served with silver-wrapped lemons in syrup, Catalan-style chicken, suckling pig, capon and duck with black and sour cherries macerated in wine. Oh my!

Times were hard for Scarlett O'Hara and Rhett Butler during the American Civil War, during which gingerbread and apples were amongst the most coveted food. Ginger is known to stimulate the heart and make the pulse race, but not a great deal can be said for apples on the romantic front, bar their seductive Eden-esque past.

Napoleon wooed Josephine in 1795 at Lerand Vefours restaurant in Paris where they dined on oysters, mutton and sole. His loving letters to her can still be seen in his tomb in Paris.

And Casanova? The world's most famous lover loved food as well as women. "Sex is like eating and eating is like sex," he wrote. It is thought that Casanova created the idea of oysters being an aphrodisiac, and loved sharing his favorite dish with his many lovers - macaroni sprinkled with cinnamon and sugar. I might try that.

Well-off Victorians would scoff oysters and drink Champagne, especially on special occasions such as a romantic meal for two. Dinner might consist of baked fish followed by roasted poultry, pork or beef, accompanied by a variety of vegetables, fresh baked bread, and often pasta, which was presented by the maid in a dramatic style to the great delight of the guests.

As for Grace Kelly and Prince Rainier of Monaco, their six-tier wedding cake was cut with the Prince's sword, oozing cream and fruit. Guests feasted on a huge buffet showcasing fresh lobster and huge sides of beef.

At Prince Charles' wedding to Lady Diana in 1981, guests drank Cuvee Dom Perignon 1961 vintage, selected because it was the year of the bride's birth. It is known as one of the most coveted and rare champagnes.

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Cook Yourself Thin with Lifetime's new Cookbook and Show!

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Cook Yourself Thin on Lifetime is the HOTTEST new way to get thin and stay that way...while still enjoying life and FOOD!

The show started with the first participant, Rachel, the "takeout queen", who says she developed bad eating habits as a child. She wanted to get pregnant, but wanted to lose weight first. The shows hosts cut down her typical daily intake of 2,500 calories to less than 1,000. Simple suggestions like keeping the skins on Yukon potatoes when you mash them instead of heaping on butter gives you that buttery flavor without the butter! You can also add half a cauliflower, scallions, and buttermilk to make tasty mashed potatoes you cut your calories from 1,042 to only 389 per serving while getting a similarly satisfying dish. The show teaches ways to add secret ingredients to cupcakes; like ground almonds to provide natural fat and shredded zucchini to add moisture instead of butter.

The second episode offered some simple suggestions like "confetti-ing" ham and poaching eggs in vinegar water for a healthful version of a traditional breakfast sandwich. This method can bring the calories down from 700 to 300. French fries were replaced with baked sweet potato fries with chili powder, garlic powder, and olive oil and burgers were modified to turkey burgers, with green chilies for flavor. The experts also suggested a cooking tip to add flavor to burgers: pressing the patty. It preserves air pockets to catch juices. These VERY simple and tasty suggestions can cut the average burger meal from 2,500 calories down to only 600!!

Cook Yourself Thin also has an interactive website where you can find things like recipes, food suggestions, exercise tracking and the caloric modification to your diet that it can give you, goals, diary writing, and a community. See below for an overview of the site, but it costs $ (just $18 a month), but still, I really just want the recipes, so the book is perfect for me (and a one-time cost).

Food Diary and Food Database

* Track calories and see how many you have used up in each meal and how many you have left for the day

* See the proportion of fat, protein and carbs in your food, and how many grams of fiber - giving you the control to balance your diet

* Keep notes about food and drink for the day, how you felt and what affected what you ate and drank

Exercise Diary and Exercise Database

* Find out how many calories you burn during workouts and ordinary daily activity

* Add your earned exercise calories to your diary and see how many extra calories this gives you

* Track your total calories for the day including those earned through exercise to see how many you've used up and how many you have left

Recipes

* Search for recipes by calorie content or your favorite ingredients, or browse through the recipe categories for inspiration

* Create and calorie-count your own recipes, and see what difference it makes to the calories when you change quantities or swap ingredients, helping you drop the pounds without dropping your favorite dishes

* Add recipes to your Diary, from the database or from the list of recipes you have created

Goals and Results

* Set a weight loss goal; see how many calories you need to get there and the date you can expect to reach your goal

* Speed up or slow down your rate of loss depending on what suits you at the time. You can even go onto 'maintenance calories' for times when you need to relax but don't want to put weight on. Great for holidays and Christmas

* Track your measurements and view your weight graph - there's nothing more motivating than a nice downward line!

Community

* Get support - whatever you're going through, the chances are that other members can relate to it. They understand exactly what you mean because they've been there themselves

* Get ideas and inspiration - real life practical answers to situations you face from "What shall I have for lunch?" to "How do I cope with evening munchies?"

* Add the IDs of your buddies to your friends list and you can see when they're online

Monthly Membership: $17.95 a month

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Cook Yourself Thin: Skinny Meals You Can Make in Minutes

Cook Yourself Thin Cookbook!

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Cook Yourself Thin is the hottest new cookbook out based on a new series on Lifetime Television. The show is a takeoff of the successful British with the same name and it teaches
you how to prepare skinny alternatives to your favorite foods.

HARRY EASTWOOD, ALLISON FISHMAN and CANDICE KUMAI star in the show and Harry is also the author of the popular book Cook Yourself Thin and Lose a Dress Size.

Their motto is Lose the Bulge...but Still Indulge!
Read the Reuters Release and check out the cookbook below.

Do you want to have your cake and eat it,
too? Cook Yourself Thin, an all-new series that will teach you the skills and give you the confidence to give your favorite indulgent
meals a healthy makeover by cutting the calories and doubling the flavor!
Culinary experts Harry Eastwood, Allison Fishman and Candice Kumai show guests
how to lose their unwanted inches by replacing extreme dieting with clever
cooking. The twenty-episode, half-hour series premieres with back-to-back
episodes onMonday, May 4 at 5:00 and 5:30 pm (ET/PT). For the remainder of the
week, Cook Yourself Thin will air new episodes Monday through Friday at 5:00
and 5:30 pm (ET/PT). Starting Monday, May 11, new episodes will air Monday
through Friday at 5:00 pm (ET/PT).

To coincide with the premiere of the series, Voice released the Cook
Yourself Thin cookbook on April 28, 2009. The cookbook includes all of
the recipes featured on the show as well as a calorie guide, a list of the big
(and surprising) calorie offenders, skinny alternatives to your favorite
meals, a food personality quiz and more.

ABOUT COOK YOURSELF THIN
Based on the successful, British series and popular cookbook, Cook Yourself
Thin encourages women to lose weight by changing their eating habits. Each
half-hour episode follows one guest as she learns simple ways to transform her
favorite high calorie meals into delicious, healthier fare. Hosts Eastwood,
Fishman and Kumai use their sharp culinary know-how to tailor a specific menu
for each participant. In the premiere episode, show participant Rachel trades
in her typical lunch of traditional lasagna (858 calories per serving) and
dinner of ribeye steak and mashed potatoes (1,040 calories per serving) for a
spinach and mushroom veggie lasagna (343 calories per serving) and steak with
cauliflower mashed potatoes (389 calories per serving).

The meals are prepared step-by-step, comparing the calorie count of the
original recipe to those of the Cook Yourself Thin version. The guest is then
sent home with the ingredients, tools and tips necessary to make healthy
changes in the kitchen. After six weeks of living the Cook Yourself Thin
lifestyle, the hosts visit each participant at home to check on her progress.

Visitors to myLifetime.com will be able to view full episodes of the series
the day after they premiere on Lifetime Television. Additionally, site
visitors will have access to recipes featured on the show and step-by-step
cooking instructions. For each episode, there will be five exclusive
webisodes featuring behind-the-scenes information about show participants -
including an inside look at the contents of their refrigerators and a video
blog recorded by one of the hosts offering cooking tips and additional
strategies for Cook Yourself Thin.

Fans of the series can also log on to the Cook Yourself Thin
subscription-based online club at cookyourselfthin.tv for exclusive access to
features, tips and tools that will help users drop their unwanted pounds.

ABOUT THE CAST
Food writer and cookbook author Harry Eastwood is an expert baker. She prides
herself on being able to cut the calorie count of delicious desserts by
substituting healthy alternatives for the high fat ingredients typically found
in baked goods. Eastwood starred in the British version of the series and
co-authored the cookbook Cook Yourself Thin: The Delicious Way to Drop a Dress
Size.

Chef Allison Fishman honed her culinary skills while working for Martha
Stewart and Food Network as a recipe developer and food stylist.
Additionally, Fishman served as co-host of TLC's Home Made Simple. She
currently writes a weekly food column for www.thestreet.com and her recipes
and writings have been featured in national magazines and newspapers across
the nation.

Candice Kumai, a contestant on season one of Bravo's Top Chef, was
professionally trained at the prestigious Le Cordon Bleu. Kumai is currently
a special events chef at the Ritz-Carlton hotel in Laguna Beach, CA and runs
her own catering company, Stiletto Chef LA. She has been featured as a
cooking expert on KNBC's Your LA and participates in high profile cooking
demonstrations across the country.

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BEST Mint Julep Recipes

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Want to make the BEST Mint Juleps for your Kentucky Derby party? For nearly a century, the mint julep has been the traditional beverage of Churchill Downs and the Kentucky Derby. The Early Times Mint Julep Cocktail is a ready-to-serve beverage that has been the "The Official Mint Julep of the Kentucky Derby®" for over 16 years. Over 80,000 Early Times Mint Juleps are served over the two-day period of the Kentucky Oaks and Kentucky Derby, requiring 8,000 liters of Early Times Mint Julep Ready-to-Serve Cocktail, 2,200 pounds of freshly harvested mint, and 80 tons of shaved ice.

The Grade II Early Times Mint Julep Stakes on May 24 at Churchill Downs is sponsored by Early Times, the time-honored ingredient in mixing an authentic mint julep. If the Early Times Mint Julep Ready-to-Serve Cocktail is not available from your local retailer, you can make your own with this recipe:

Early Times Mint Julep

2 cups sugar
2 cups water
Sprigs of fresh mint
Crushed ice
Early Times Kentucky Whisky
Silver Julep Cups

Make a simple syrup by boiling sugar and water together for five minutes. Cool and place in a covered container with six or eight sprigs of fresh mint, then refrigerate overnight. Make one julep at a time by filling a julep cup with crushed ice, adding one tablespoon mint syrup and two ounces of Early Times Kentucky Whiskey. Stir rapidly with a spoon to frost the outside of the cup. Garnish with a sprig of fresh mint.

The Perfect Mint Julep Recipe from the Food Network

Ingredients

4 cups bourbon
2 bunches fresh spearmint
1 cup distilled water
1 cup granulated sugar
Powdered sugar

Directions

To prepare mint extract, remove about 40 small mint leaves. Wash and place in a small bowl. Cover with 3 ounces bourbon. Allow the leaves to soak for 15 minutes. Then gather the leaves in paper toweling. Thoroughly wring the mint over the bowl of whisky. Dip the bundle again and repeat the process several times.

To prepare simple syrup, mix 1 cup of granulated sugar and 1 cup of distilled water in a small saucepan. Heat to dissolve sugar. Stir constantly so the sugar does not burn. Set aside to cool.

To prepare mint julep mixture, pour 3 1/2 cups of bourbon into a large glass bowl or glass pitcher. Add 1 cup of the simple syrup to the bourbon.

Now begin adding the mint extract 1 tablespoon at a time to the julep mixture. Each batch of mint extract is different, so you must taste and smell after each tablespoon is added. You are looking for a soft mint aroma and taste-generally about 3 tablespoons. When you think it's right, pour the whole mixture back into the empty liter bottle and refrigerate it for at least 24 hours to "marry" the flavors.

To serve the julep, fill each glass (preferably a silver mint julep cup) 1/2 full with shaved ice. Insert a spring of mint and then pack in more ice to about 1-inch over the top of the cup. Then, insert a straw that has been cut to 1-inch above the top of the cup so the nose is forced close to the mint when sipping the julep.

When frost forms on the cup, pour the refrigerated julep mixture over the ice and add a sprinkle of powdered sugar to the top of the ice. Serve immediately.

Non-Alcoholic Mint Julep

Your kids and non-drinking friends can join in the Kentucky Derby festivities!

PREP TIME	15 Min
COOK TIME	10 Min
READY IN	1 Hr 25 Min

INGREDIENTS

1/4 cup water
1/4 cup white sugar
1 tablespoon chopped fresh mint leaves
2 cups crushed ice
1/2 cup prepared lemonade
Fresh mint sprigs, for garnish

DIRECTIONS

In a small saucepan, combine the water, sugar and 1 tablespoon of chopped mint. Stir and bring to a boil. Cook until sugar has dissolved, then remove from heat and set aside to cool. After about an hour, strain out mint leaves.
Fill 2 cups or frozen goblets with crushed ice. Pour 1/2 of the lemonade into each glass and top with a splash of the sugar syrup. Garnish each with a mint sprig and a straw. Serve on a silver platter.

Pork Chops and Sugar Snap Peas with Mint Julep Glaze

Bon Appétit | March 2009

yield: Makes 2 servings

active time: 20 minutes

total time: 20 minutes

The classic Kentucky cocktail is the inspiration for this light and lovely dish—which has just a hint of bourbon.

Ingredients

1/2 cup beef broth
6 tablespoons bourbon, divided
1 tablespoon (packed) dark brown sugar
1/4 teaspoon white wine vinegar
2 3/4-inch-thick pork rib chops
Ground allspice
1 tablespoon butter
4 ounces sugar snap peas
1/4 cup chopped fresh mint

Preparation

Stir broth, 3 tablespoons bourbon, sugar, and vinegar in small bowl until sugar dissolves. Sprinkle pork with salt, pepper, and allspice. Melt butter in medium nonstick skillet over medium-high heat. Add pork. Sauté until just cooked through, about 4 minutes per side (butter will brown). Transfer pork to platter.

Add bourbon mixture to skillet and bring to boil. Add sugar snap peas and cook until crisp-tender, about 2 minutes. Using slotted spoon, scatter peas over pork. Remove skillet from over heat. Add remaining 3 tablespoons bourbon to sauce in skillet. Boil over high heat until sauce is reduced to thin glaze and coats spoon lightly, about 3 minutes. Mix in mint; spoon over pork and serve.

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Sexting

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Interested in sexting tips?

The brain is our biggest sex organ. Technology affects every part of our life so it should be no surprise that dating is one of them. We are finding our date-able partners on-line and flirting plenty via e-mail. But if you search "sexting", you are going to see it's been tried and hung in the court of public opinion.

Obviously no sexual activity, including sexting, is appropriate for minors. And yes, these messages and/or pics are easy to forward around. But why would you be sleeping with someone you can't trust with something that simple and private. If you can't trust him enough to send him a pic, maybe you shouldn't be sleeping with him at all. Yes, the guy is out there that will secretly video-tape your encounter, but come on, are you worried about that when you are in bed with your partner? So, when we are talking about this, let's assume you have done the screening, he has made the cut, and you are not playing with the perverted jerk who is electronically exploiting you.

My guess is these tryers and hangers of the sexting game have not been in the single world for a long time (and, uh, I also venture to guess they are not having a lot of bedroom fun in the married world either). Sexting is hot, fun, and if done well, torturous foreplay. At it's lightest it can be flirty fun. At it's heaviest it can be the equivalent of phone, or maybe more like cyber, sex.

Imagine your partner is in the middle of a busy typically troublesome workday and he receives a text from you telling him that your mind is lingering on some detail of last nights sexcapade. Very sexy.

This game is just like everything else in life, know the players, establish the relationship and what is appropriate or not, and act accordingly. I think it the initial "testing" to see if you have a partner that likes to play most compares to phone sex. Throw a little line out and see if he bites and, if so, how hard. If you are dating a person who thinks sex with the lights on is edgy stuff, take it easy and be careful not to offend. But even the guy who is having sex with the lights on is having sex. Try thinking "romantic" when you are pre-sexting him, send him flirty messages about his kisses (Your kisses are addicting. Wanting you.) and see where it goes.

You can have big fun if you find a playmate and make it part of your sex-game.

12 Hot Sexting Tips

Text a memory of your last encounter, or one that was particularly hot.

Text a message telling him you are thinking naughty thoughts and ask him what he thinks you should do about that. This takes him to a sexual place, imagining what he wants to do, not just what he's done.

Tell him you are aching for him. Take it a step further and tell him, in detail, what you are fantasizing about.

Take a sexy pic of yourself in lingerie (or 5 until you get it right and have one you like enough to send!), send it to him and ask him why he is making you (or sometimes it's hot to say "her", as in "Why are you making her") wait.

Take a nude pic of yourself (or 30, you're going to need a glass of wine) and tell him he is on your mind. Don't be too critical. Remember, all women are beautiful and he finds you very sexy. If this is scary, you can always take one without your face in the photo.

Take a picture of your bed and write something like, "Waiting of you to join me." You could prop lingerie on it. Or two champagne classes. Or rose petals on the bed.

Send him a pic of something only the two of you would know is sexual. For instance, if you made love on the picnic table out back, send him a pic and tell him you cannot wait to picnic again.

Snap a pic of a sex toy or lube.

Buy a pair of sexy panties (or do this with the pair of your own he lusts the most after), take a pic of them without you in them and tell him you are wearing them right now.

Find out what one of his fantasies is (hot cop, sexy nurse, Princess Leah, french maid, school girl), dress up and send him the pic.

You can up it all the way and take a short video clip of something you might normally do in private.

Sometimes the hottest, sexiest things are the ones that don't show or tell much, but send his mind racing. Letting his own imagination fill in the blanks will allow him to spark a mental image that he finds incredibly exciting.

Have fun with it, be creative. Notice what words or pics make your partner particularly excited (everyone has a hot button) and use them. But, just like all thing sexual, if you use sexting too frequently, it loses the titillating naughtiness of it. So be careful to make it infrequent enough that it continues to be a surprise. There is something very enticing to us about the forbidden. If you can send him something that he feels he has to hide or sneak to the bathroom to look at, you are playing a hot sex-game that will have him looking for ways to get back to you asap.

Sexting is modern day tool that you can use to increase desire, all day foreplay. Part of creating and keeping a hot sex life is to keep the burners on low all the time. If you have to start from cold, it never gets as hot. So keep your foreplay fun and thread it into his day. He won't be able to get enough of you!

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Top 1000 Books, Best Novels Ever

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The top 1000 novels from any decade in any language? Guardian has done the work for us.

Novels are an excellent educational tool that allows us private peeks, cloaked as fiction, into the inner workings of a persons mind and thoughts so private they are difficult to own as autobiographical. For instance, Sons And Lovers by DH Lawrence was a work of fiction. In his real life this book destroyed his relationship with his exes, one of whom never spoke with him again (the portrayals were brutal!). I hear people say fiction is a guilty pleasure/waste of time. I disagree. I am not sure the core of any novel is true fiction.

There is so much to be learned about love from fiction....I don't intend that as a joke! If you want to get serious about seducing Mr Right, try reading yourself into the mindset of the lover and their beloved. These books are an amazing place to start, the best novels of all time!

This compilation of books is the definitive list as selected by the Guardian's Review team and a panel of expert judges, this list includes only novels – no memoirs, no short stories, no long poems – from any decade and in any language. This was originally published in categories – love, crime, comedy, family and self, state of the nation, science fiction and fantasy, war and travel. I selected the Love category, for obvious reasons, but if you want to view the entire list go to http://www.guardian.co.uk.

The Guardian's Top 1000 Books

Love Category

Le Grand Meaulnes by Henri Alain-Fournier

Dom Casmurro Joaquim by Maria Machado de Assis

Northanger Abbey by Jane Austen

Sense and Sensibility by Jane Austen

Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen

Mansfield Park by Jane Austen

Emma by Jane Austen

Persuasion by Jane Austen

Giovanni's Room by James Baldwin

Nightwood by Djuna Barnes

The Garden of the Finzi-Cortinis by Giorgio Bassani

Love for Lydia by HE Bates

More Die of Heartbreak by Saul Bellow

Lorna Doone by RD Blackmore

The Death of the Heart by Elizabeth Bowen

The Heat of the Day by Elizabeth Bowen

Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte

Vilette by Charlotte Bronte

Wuthering Heights by Emily Bronte

Look At Me by Anita Brookner

Rubyfruit Jungle by Rita Mae Brown

Possession by AS Byatt

Breakfast at Tiffany's by Truman Capote

Oscar and Lucinda by Peter Carey

A Month in the Country by JL Carr

My Antonia by Willa Cather

A Lost Lady by Willa Cather

Claudine a l'ecole by Sidonie-Gabrielle Colette

Cheri by Sidonie-Gabrielle Collette

Victory: An Island Tale by Joseph Conrad

The Princess of Cleves by Madame de Lafayette

The Parasites by Daphne du Maurier

Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier

The Lover by Marguerite Duras

Adam Bede by George Eliot

Daniel Deronda by George Eliot

The Mill on the Floss by George Eliot

The Virgin Suicides by Jeffrey Eugenides

The Great Gatsby by F Scott Fitzgerald

Tender is the Night by F Scott Fitzgerald

The Blue Flower by Penelope Fitzgerald

Madame Bovary by Gustave Flaubert

The Good Soldier by Ford Madox Ford

A Room with a View by EM Forster

The French Lieutenant's Woman by John Fowles

The Snow Goose by Paul Gallico

Ruth by Elizabeth Gaskell

Strait is the Gate by Andre Gide

Sunset Song by Lewis Grassic Gibbon

The Sorrows of Young Werther by Johann Wolfgang Goethe

Living by Henry Green

The End of the Affair by Graham Greene

The Well of Loneliness by Radclyffe Hall

Far From the Madding Crowd by Thomas Hardy

Jude the Obscure by Thomas Hardy

Tess of the D'Urbervilles by Thomas Hardy

The Woodlanders by Thomas Hardy

The Go-Between by LP Hartley

The Scarlet Letter by Nathaniel Hawthorne

The Transit of Venus by Shirley Hazzard

A Farewell to Arms by Ernest Hemingway

The Infamous Army by Georgette Heyer

Regency Buck by Georgette Heyer

The Swimming-Pool Library by Alan Hollinghurst

Green Mansions: A Romance of the Tropical Forest by WH Hudson

Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston

Crome Yellow by Aldous Huxley

The Remains of the Day by Kazuo Ishiguro

Portrait of a Lady by Henry James

The Wings of the Dove by Henry James

The Piano Teacher by Elfriede Jelinek

Beauty and Saddness by Yasunari Kawabata

The Far Pavillions by Mary Margaret Kaye

Zorba the Greek by Nikos Kazantzakis

Moon over Africa by Pamela Kent

The Book of Laughter and Forgetting by Milan Kundera

The Unbearable Lightness of Being by Milan Kundera

Les Liaisons Dangereuses by Pierre-Ambroise-Francois Choderlos de Laclos

Lady Chatterley's Lover by DH Lawrence

The Rainbow by DH Lawrence

Women in Love by DH Lawrence

The Echoing Grove by Rosamond Lehmann

The Weather in the Streets by Rosamond Lehmann

Gentlemen Prefer Blondes by Anita Loos

Zami by Audre Lorde

Foreign Affairs by Alison Lurie

Samarkand by Amin Maalouf

Death in Venice by Thomas Mann

The Silent Duchess by Dacia Maraini

A Heart So White by Javier Marias

Love in the Time of Cholera by Gabriel Garcia Marquez

Of Human Bondage by Somerset Maugham

So Long, See you Tomorrow by William Maxwell

The Heart is a Lonely Hunter by Carson McCullers

Atonement by Ian McEwan

The Child in Time by Ian McEwan

The Egoist by George Meredith

Tropic of Cancer by Henry Miller

Patience and Sarah by Isabel Miller

Gone With the Wind by Margaret Mitchell

The Pursuit of Love by Nancy Mitford

Love in a Cold Climate by Nancy Mitford

Arturo's Island by Elsa Morante

Norwegian Wood by Haruki Murakami

Lolita, or the Confessions of a White Widowed Male by Vladimir Nabokov

The Painter of Signs by RK Narayan

Delta of Venus by Anais Nin

All Souls Day by Cees Nooteboom

The English Patient by Michael Ondaatje

Doctor Zhivago by Boris Pasternak

Manon Lescaut by Abbe Prevost

Wide Sargasso Sea by Jean Rhys

Maurice Guest by Henry Handel Richardson

Pamela by Samuel Richardson

Clarissa by Samuel Richardson

Gilead by Marilynne Robinson

Bonjour Tristesse by Francoise Sagan

Ali and Nino by Kurban Said

Light Years by James Salter

A Sport and a Passtime by James Salter

The Reader by Benhardq Schlink

The Reluctant Orphan by Aara Seale

Love Story by Eric Segal

Enemies, a Love Story by Isaac Bashevis Singer

At Grand Central Station I Sat Down and Wept by Elizabeth Smart

I Capture the Castle by Dodie Smith

The Map of Love by Ahdaf Soueif

Valley of the Dolls by Jacqueline Susann

Waterland by Graham Swift

Diary of a Mad Old Man by Junichiro Tanizaki

Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy

Music and Silence by Rose Tremain

First Love by Ivan Turgenev

Breathing Lessons by Anne Tyler

The Accidental Tourist by Anne Tyler

The Night Watch by Sarah Waters

The Graduate by Charles Webb

The Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton

The Passion by Jeanette Winterson

East Lynne by Ellen Wood

Revolutionary Road by Richard Yates

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22 Free e-book Sites!

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Cruising around online I have found 22 free e-book sites. One site even offers free audio books and another is designed for those of us who might need a little larger print! I am a total book hound and a big fan of free stuff. Isn't the digital age wonderful?

www.AskSam.com/ebooks/ - A small selection of classic texts like Shakespeare, and assorted legal & governmental texts.

www.baen.com/library/ - Baen Free Library - A small library of downloadable science fiction novels, mostly the first in an ongoing series to get you hungry for more.

www.bookrags.com/browse/ebooks/ - BookRags.com - Small selection of free choices, and thousands more for premium members. Can be downloaded as PDF or Word documents.

www.Gutenberg.org - The first project for converting public domain works into a digital format; their selection now numbers over 5,000.

www.ManyBooks.net - Over 24,000 books to be read on your PDA, cellphone, iPod, iPhone and more.

www.Mslit.com - Over 60,000 e-books provided by Microsoft for their MS Reader.

www.NetLibrary.net - World Public Library: Annual membership, and access to over 500,000 works, is only $8.95 a year. They do offer some books for free.

http://ota.ahds.ac.uk/ - Oxford Text Archive - Thousands of texts in 25 different languages you can download as ASCII or DOC files, some do require permission of the original uploader, some are archived for preservation purposes only, but most are available and free.

www.planetpdf.com/free_pdf_ebooks.asp?CurrentPage=1 - PlanetPDF eBooks - A decent sized collection of classic novels all in PDF format.

www.planetebook.com - is the sister site to Planet PDF offers more downloadable free e-books.

www.PocketPCbooks.net - A nice selection of e-books specifically for your Windows Mobile Device. They are mostly converted from Project Gutenberg. Every one needs to carry Sun Tzu’s The Art Of War on their PDA.

www.Bartleby.com - Internet site dedicated to providing students, teachers, and the intellectually curious access to information and books for free. They have the Bible, Gray's Anatomy of the Human Body, Harvard Classics, and encyclopedias are included here in this easy to browse, HTML only site.

sunsite3.berkeley.edu/Literature/- Berkeley Sunsite Classics - A selection of the works of 10 classical authors from Jane Austen and Thoreau.

www.Bibliomania.com - Over 2,000 classic texts, study guides, reference books, help for teachers, biographies, and more.

www.Grtbooks.com - Chronological collection of free-to-read online texts dating back as far as 200 B.C.

www.Infomotions.com - A collection of over 14,000 open access documents from full novels to Western philosophy.

www.ipl.org/reading/books - Internet Public Library - A directory of over 20,000 of online texts hosted at other sites.

www.perseus.tufts.edu/hopper - The Perseus Digital Library - A large collection of classical texts broken down by the time period in which they were written and/or category of work.

www.ReadEasily.com - A site with e-books specifically with the visually impaired and elderly in mind. It allows you to change colors, fonts, and size to make it more legible.

http://digital.library.upenn.edu/books/ - The Online Books Page - Directory of over 35,000 e-books from all over the web.

www.scribd.com - Over 50,000 texts from books to magazines to articles to recipes.

www.arcamax.com - over 50,000 books by e-mail, sent a chapter a week.

www.questia.com - Over 74,000 books and 2 million articles for free, but you do have to register.

http://librivox.org/- Free audiobooks. The site is dedicated to making all public domain books available as free audiobooks.

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How To Love Like A Hot Chick

2009-04-10T08:24:00.000-07:00

I just read this book, "How To Love Like a Hot Chick: The Girlfriend to Girlfriend Guide to Getting the Love You Deserve", and I must tell all you dating girls to get it and read it!

Hot Chick: A confident, passionate, honest woman…You want to be around her to soak up those good vibes.

Jodi Lipper and Cerina Vincent are very funny and very real. The book is full of their own dating stories, both tragic and triumphant. I love the way they take the guilt out of the experience and point you in the right direction of FUN! That's what it should be about! They do have advice for younger women too, even on dating while you are a virgin. But for the women in their late 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's, come on girls! Let's have a good time out there. Jodi and Cerina remind you that dating is a short time in your life and you nee to get out there and make some memories that will have you blushing. It's your heyday...make it worth reminiscing.

In a fun way, How To Love Like a Hot Chick: The Girlfriend to Girlfriend Guide to Getting the Love You Deserve
will help you figure out what you want, how to get it, and why you shouldn't settle for anything less. Most importantly, they’ll make the entire process a lot more fun with their advice on the hidden joys of being single, how to send out magical Hot Chick Vibes and interpret the vibe your date is sending, steps to falling in love without freaking out, tactful dumping procedures, survival techniques for heart-wrenching breakups, and much more.

Whether you’re single, dating, in a relationship, or so confused you don’t know what your status even is, How to Love Like a Hot Chick will have you laughing your way through dating and relationship issues and tackling them like the sexy, fabulous woman you already are and deserve to be.

Please read it. You will have so much fun!

Find Your Dream Man On Line...Really

2009-04-06T13:57:00.000-07:00

Have I mentioned I found my love on Match.com?

It is a real fairy tale story.

I had gone to a Christmas party at a friends house and her mom was single. We chatted a bit about boys and such and she mentioned that she was on Match.com. I was surprised and even more so once she told me that she had met some very interesting men from Match.

Hmmm. I went home that night with the intention of looking at boys online. At the time, the site wouldn't let you look without signing up. So I did. Checking out the profiles was great! It was so nice to see that there were still a lot of single me still out there. It can be so much more difficult to see that in daily life!

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Looking at the profiles helped me think hard about what I was really looking for, what kind of a man I wanted in my life. I also took the time to check out the women's profiles to see what I was up against if someone were to search for a woman who fell into my category. That was enlightening! Do that for sure. Read a few profiles and it becomes sooo obvious what not to say!!!

The next night my girlfriends came over with wine and I took my laptop downstairs and we created my profile. By the way, "curvy" means curvier than the novice might think. So don't select "curvy" unless you are curvier.

I decided not to include a picture. I wouldn't recommend this at all for anyone, but hey, it worked for me. I was thinking that I could meet any guy in a bar who would love to do me, you know, we are girls, guys are always after us for that. I wanted a man who could READ about me and "get" me on some level other than the pic. Well, that was the philosophy, however faulty.

I searched the men for a couple I thought were worth chatting with and e-mailed.

Remember, I had only heard about it at a Christmas party. Our first date was in January. In February we were in London. We had our first Valentine together when we returned from London.

It's been three years and I love him something crazy. I think if you "match" on paper to begin with, if you meet and have chemistry, wham! It's a big deal.

When you meet at a bar or anywhere in real life, the process is reversed. You know if you have chemistry and have no idea if you have anything in common. On top of it, the chemistry causes the two of you to want to have things in common, to look for them, and maybe alter yourself just a bit to accommodate the desire to find "the one".

On-line dating is amazing. It gives you options previously unavailable. I found a true gem and one I cannot ever imagine having the opportunity to meet in daily life without an incredible amount of luck. On-line, you just search and find.

Now it's not quite that easy, but pretty close. There are lots of ins and out to the whole thing, but go on and try it now. I found a 7 day FREE trial and included it above in this post. You have nothing to lose. They even have a 6 month guarantee! On a relationship!

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Fabulous First Date

2009-04-04T20:18:00.000-07:00

Watch this video. She's right, we still need the coffee date! Get a coffee date of your very own on Match!

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6 Profile Mistakes Women Make

2009-04-04T17:44:00.000-07:00

Want to get guys emailing you left and right? Purge your profile of these common problems—and try our more guy-friendly fixes.

By Laura Gilbert

Ever wonder why a profile that describes you perfectly isn’t getting noticed by guys you’re dying to hear from? It’s not because you’re not a catch—rather, it could be that your profile contains some tiny red flags that, while invisible to the female eye, make guys think twice about winking and saying hello. But luckily, there’s nothing a few simple tweaks can’t fix. So go ahead and comb your write-up for the no-no’s, and try these substitutes (trust us, guys find them irresistible!).

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Profile problem #1: Creating a laundry list of the perfect guy’s traits
Of course, we all want someone who’s hot, rich, interesting, hilarious—the whole package, and it’d be foolish not to have a few must-haves for the guy you’d like to get to know better. But when a woman spends her introductory paragraph going on and on about who she's hoping to date, it can scare off men who don’t feel they can live up to those expectations.

Guy-friendly alternative: List just two or three of the most important things you want in a mate, whether it’s financial security or a passion for going out on the town every Post a blurry shot online and guys will wonder what you’re trying to hide. weekend. Lest you think you’re lowering your standards, think about the happiest couples you know: When they first started dating, were they exactly ideal? Or, think about someone you’ve dated who was perfect on paper but lacked that spark to keep you coming back. In other words, what makes a match work is not always based on meeting that checklist in your head. Nix it from your profile, and watch the guys pour in—then take your pick!

Profile problem #2: A picture that doesn’t really show you at your best
We all have a shot of ourselves that we love, regardless of the fact that it’s a little blurry, distant… or that you’re wearing sunglasses that hide your eyes or a huge comfy sweater that obscures your figure. That’s fine if you like it and feel free to keep it for the fond memories—post it in your profile, though, and guys will wonder what you’re trying to hide. “An obscured photo is as good as no photo,” says Roman Griffen, author of Internet Dating: Tips, Tricks, Tactics. “Men are suspicious of a shot where they can’t make you out and since they’re so visually oriented, they’ll just skip your profile if that first picture doesn’t look good.”

Guy-friendly alternative: Easy: Set your main photo to one that shows you at your best—and leaves nothing important to guesswork. It doesn’t matter if the background is boring—your goal in that first picture is just to present yourself as accurately (and positively!) as possible. It’s fine to include your beloved, more obscure photo in your secondary shots.

Profile problem #3: Going overboard in the “about me” section
We’ve all heard that old statistic about women using, oh, seventy billion words for every one that a man says, and the same is true online. While many men’s personal essays struggle to reach the 200-character minimum, many women only stop when they hit the 2,000-character max. Now, there’s nothing wrong with telling us as much about yourself as you can fit into an essay, but keep in mind that not all guys like reading a wall of “Soul mate”… “Knight in shining armor”… men get skittish when they see this kind of poetic language. text—and may be tempted to move on purely because they’re not in a reading mood.

Guy-friendly alternative: Absolutely share some basics, but save some details for later. Use anecdotes that tell your readers about the real you: “Okay, here goes: I guess that most of my friends would probably say I’m really nice,” uses up 16 words and reveals almost nothing; but “I once walked an old lady four blocks because she needed directions but didn’t speak English” is a memorable, kick-butt story to include, and just a few stories like that will turn a guy’s head.

Profile problem #4: Listing all your hobbies, including ones that turn off guys
So you absolutely love baking, sewing, flower arranging? All fine ways to spend your time. But remember, in your profile you’re trying to attract a romantic partner. “When you list your hobbies, you need to remember that your reader should appreciate them,” says Cherie Burbach, author of At the Coffee Shop: If You Thought E- Dating Was for Freaks and Weirdos, Read This Book.

Guy-friendly alternative: List hobbies that a guy might be glad to join in on himself. Even if you don’t have any current activities that could fit the bill, list something you’d like to do, like “I’ve always wanted to try kayaking.” Not only may you attract some cute kayak enthusiast, you’ll show that you’re open to new things—and that’s an attractive trait.

Profile problem #5: Harping on your exes
Plenty of profiles start with an explanation of why the person is now single. “Prove to me that men aren’t jerks” or “Where are the nice guys?” crop up. Think it’s smart to be honest about your romantic past? Wrong. “The number-one mistake I see people making online is talking about their exes,” says Liz Kelly, author of SMART Man Hunting. The problem isn’t that you’ve had a bad experience, it’s that spending precious profile space on the jerk makes you appear unready to move on.

Guy-friendly alternative: Any time you find yourself writing about your ex, flip it into a positive statement that doesn’t involve him. Turn “I moved here two years ago to be with my boyfriend but then he broke up with me” into “I’ve lived here for two years and still feel like I’ve barely scratched the surface of this city.” And why write “My last boyfriend seemed perfect until he turned into a liar” when you could say “The most important thing to me is finding a guy who isn’t afraid to reveal himself, warts and all”?

Profile problem #6: Using flowery, fairy-tale language
Soul mate. Knight in shining armor. These terms permeate women’s profiles, and yet it probably comes as no surprise that men get skittish when they see poetic language along these lines. “The bottom line is that everyone dating online is looking for their soul mate, so you don’t have to use terms like that,” says Griffen. “In fact, doing so makes guys feel like they’re a candidate, not just a date, and it turns the pressure way up.”

Guy-friendly alternative: Hold off on the lovey talk until you’re in love. Instead, describe what hanging out with you would actually be like: Do you love ordering a pizza and playing videogames on rainy Saturdays? Or do you make a point of hitting a trendy new bar or restaurant on weekends to keep things interesting? It’s details like these that will draw guys in—and get you one step closer to finding that soul mate you’re looking for.

Laura Gilbert writes for Health, The Knot, Stuff, and Radar—and is proud to say she’s never once used the words “soul mate” or “knight” in her profile. Or in a face-to-face conversation, for that matter.

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How To Get My Ex Back

2009-03-30T20:53:00.000-07:00

Want to know how to get your ex back? Are you in shock and disbelief over the break up? Was it one of those that came out of nowhere? You knew things were a bit off, but damn, not like this. Or is he unclear as to how broken up you are? Maybe he's tossing you a "let's just take a little time and see how things go". Or better yet, "things aren't over between us", with that intense look in his eyes, but he is still breaking it off or asking for the mysterious "space". Is he giving you NO answers as to why (or the ones he gives you are so lame you know it just doesn't fly)?

If you find yourself in this position, a cruel joke of nature is that, unfortunately for you, all of your instincts will serve you wrong and give you the exact opposite result of what you are hoping for. Likely you will want to know why. It will eat you up. You will replay every word of every sentence and the possible inflection of each thing said and what he meant or might have meant and probably call your girlfriends who will painstakingly help you review everything to death and call him a bastard while you clutch your phone in case he calls. The moment you are out of their sight, you will text him something you think is loving and harmless like, "Are you okay?", and continue pounding nail after nail into your relationship coffin.

You will want to talk to him. You will tell yourself and your girlfriends that he is different. You will insist that they do not understand and that he would never want to hurt you. No one else knows him like you do, that gentle vulnerable side. Something else must be going on and you just have to be there and he will open up to you. You call him at night.

Every single thing your heart longs to do will have you looking utterly pathetic and pathetic is NOT sexy. Remember the attraction, confidence, and sexiness that drew him to you in the first place. Those are the desirable traits that will bring him back. You might think that because you know him better and he loves or loved you that you can be more honest, open, you can share your feelings and talk it out. He will eventuall feel really sorry for how he has hurt you and undo it all. No No No.

But in the bewilderment of emotion and devastation, it can be hard to be your most charming sexy self. And maybe, even though you know these things, the steps to them are unclear. You can't eat, you can't sleep, you can think of nothing else. You keep hoping that he will come to his senses and show up at your door. It prevents you from making good decisions that will get you what you want, him. Back in your arms, loving you with the passion and desire that once possessed him.

Check this out, it's interesting, specific, clear, and effective. Some of the action steps are free, but the detailed stuff they give you for a small fee has a guarantee that if you don't get him back in 60 days, you get your money back! Learn the subtle secrets of what to do today that can get your ex back into your arms. I think it's great stuff.

Make up already!

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David Letterman Marriage To Regina Lasko

2009-03-30T20:49:00.000-07:00

Letterman and Regina Lasko

Letterman and Regina's son, Harry

David Letterman married Regina Lasko, his girlfriend of 23 years last Thursday.

Letterman said on the "Late Show" on Monday night, "On Thursday, at 3 p.m., March 19, 2009 at the Teton County Courthouse in Choteau, Montana, I was married to Regina Lasko."

He told the audience, "Regina and I began dating in February of 1986, and I said, 'Well, things are going pretty good, let's just see what happens in about ten years.'"

He went on, "I had avoided getting married pretty good for, like, 23 years, and I...honestly, whether this happened or not...I secretly felt that men who were married admired me…like I was the last of the real gunslingers, you know what I'm saying?"

The day of the wedding he, Regina, and their son Harry got in a pickup truck to go to the courthouse and then things started to go awry. Letterman related the story: "We've got to drive into the courthouse and it's muddy, and we're supposed to be there at 2, and it's me, Regina and Harry in the truck, in the pickup truck … So we get two miles from the house and we get stuck in the mud - I mean, turn the truck over, stuck in the mud."

He walked two miles back to his home "into a fifty mile per hour wind," and said that he thought to himself, "See, smart ass, see, see, you try to get married, this is what happens. See, well, you've got nobody to blame but yourself. Could have happened any other day, but you wait now, see, this is what you get."

After he managed to get a different car to get back to his wife and son, he said, "So then we get in the car and Harry says, 'Are we still going into town?' and I said, 'Yes, we are,' and he gets very upset because mom had told him if I wasn't back in an hour, the deal was off."

There are two things that interest me about this story. First, women (and men) tend to rate external beauty as a prerequisite for dating/marrying a man like Letterman (wealthy, handsome, charismatic). Second, Letterman's thinking of himself as "the last gunslinger" is interesting.

Regina's physical appearance should be noteworthy to single women who think only the 20 year old beauties can snatch up the quality men. Regina is a normal woman with the normal beauty that we all possess. There is so much more than initial physical attraction that goes into the kind of attraction that holds a man for 23 years. There is a lot of information available that can guide a woman to the kinds of qualities that keep a man intrigued, and take him from single to committed. I read about these things daily, too much, and I like to share the ones I find particularly insightful.